Alright beautiful humans, as you know I am taking a break from Social Media, however I deeply know the power of community, connection and support from like-minded souls.
over 100 of you and 1 question? Surely there's things going on for you in life right now you may need help/support/guidance with? A different perspective? Are you feeling discomfort in asking a question? why? Let's explore that. There is always room for us to grow and evolve as humans as we go on this journey, and doing it alone is so much more lonely and long-winded. So, unleash my friends and share whats on your heart x
There's so many things at play here! Firstly, Motherhood is fucking hard and triggering and chaotic and intense and we need to remember that. So, if you feel guilty, remind yourself that you're doing your best, this is hard and then go repair with your son. Literally say "Mummy is sorry that she yelled, I'm feeling really overwhelmed. I'm learning to manage my emotions better. You haven't done anything wrong, I love you". Repair is everything. Learning about and understanding age appropriate behavior helps for you to understand that his behavior is normal, why he does it and how you can help him (and you) through it. Get hubby to tag in when you're feeling overwhelmed so you can go calm down and/or rest. In the moment find ways for you to calm your body down and get back into homeostasis, our kids regulate their nervous system through us regulating ours. Breather, ground, fresh air, movement, tapping, scream into a pillow, shake it out, dance, music etc - have a play and find what works for you. Ensure also that you are getting time just for YOU, to gill up your cup, you are more likely to be triggered and get overwhelmed and yelly Mum if you're operating from an empty cup. Go to bed early and get a good sleep, sleep helps immensely.
over 100 of you and 1 question? Surely there's things going on for you in life right now you may need help/support/guidance with? A different perspective? Are you feeling discomfort in asking a question? why? Let's explore that. There is always room for us to grow and evolve as humans as we go on this journey, and doing it alone is so much more lonely and long-winded. So, unleash my friends and share whats on your heart x
There's so many things at play here! Firstly, Motherhood is fucking hard and triggering and chaotic and intense and we need to remember that. So, if you feel guilty, remind yourself that you're doing your best, this is hard and then go repair with your son. Literally say "Mummy is sorry that she yelled, I'm feeling really overwhelmed. I'm learning to manage my emotions better. You haven't done anything wrong, I love you". Repair is everything. Learning about and understanding age appropriate behavior helps for you to understand that his behavior is normal, why he does it and how you can help him (and you) through it. Get hubby to tag in when you're feeling overwhelmed so you can go calm down and/or rest. In the moment find ways for you to calm your body down and get back into homeostasis, our kids regulate their nervous system through us regulating ours. Breather, ground, fresh air, movement, tapping, scream into a pillow, shake it out, dance, music etc - have a play and find what works for you. Ensure also that you are getting time just for YOU, to gill up your cup, you are more likely to be triggered and get overwhelmed and yelly Mum if you're operating from an empty cup. Go to bed early and get a good sleep, sleep helps immensely.
Lastly, give yourself a fucking break Mama xx