It's never what you expect

This journey is so interesting, the support we are receiving never ceases to amaze me, and what’s most shocked me is = it is mostly from people we barely knew, or complete strangers!! A lovely lady cooked us a gluten free and vegan meal lastnight and dropped it off still hot – shes never met us, shes through a local church. I frequent the secondhand shop the church runs and the lady knows me and had heard of our journey, so she shared our give a little, and asked the church community if they could help. So far, we’ve received some beautiful meals from them, a financial donation and she refuses to charge me when I go to the secondhand shop now. Incredible! I’ve got four bags ready to donate when they open again to pay back in a small way.

Dan had set up a food truck market here, using the local salvation army as a location as they have a big parking area and grass space for the trucks, so we kind of knew them, and he has said to come in anytime and get anything we need from their foodbank, which is amazing as food is not cheap yo!

I’ve also connected with a lovely boss Mama on Instagram and she’s sending me some of her epic green powder and mushrooms for Dan – seriously so kind! She also shared our give a little. I feel like I don’t do enough to thank people, but I know they wouldn’t offer if they didn’t truly want to support us.

What gets me in the feels on the other end of the spectrum though is that my own Family, my cousins and aunties and uncles that live here in chch - I have not heard from them. At all. No messages, no financial support and no physical support. I just don’t get it. I really don’t.

Dans been very up and down this week – really tired. He’s still tracking well with his painkiller, up to around 19 hours he did yesterday – but that’s not without niggles, pain and discomfort in-between, which he uses his heat pad and CBD for. We’ve got a stronger one and it seems to be working well. He’s been very emotional too, I mean, this is a huge awakening for him, brining every facet of his life past, present, future to the surface and its huge. I am hoping I am enough of a support for him.

I desperately want to get him back to the UK as he has really solid friends there, only a few kind of friends here as work and kids never allowed him to make any after we left Auckland. I just hope we can somehow raise enough money to get there with the kids (cos bro it’ll be like 15k give or take just for flights) as well as money for holistic health, cos right now, that would mean the give a little funds are all going towards getting him home – but being surrounded by his friends and family may be a fucking cure in itself!

I’ve dropped the kids and given him space again as he was sleeping, I will grab some fresh fruit for the kids and head home to check on him soon. I still can’t believe that this is my life now….