As a society we need to stop labelling everything

20/12/23

Its been 6 months today since Dan passed away. It’s 5 days until the first Christmas without him. I feel kind of numb if I’m being honest. I’ve noticed the grief comes in waves, but the waves last different amounts of times. Sometimes its pangs of just hurting in my heart and chest, sometimes I feel down, sad, lonely, all the things for days, sometimes weeks. Then sometimes I feel happy, hopeful, optimistic, like it’s all going to work out somehow. The thing is that nothing will bring him back, and like my post Grief (and my 7 years of life with Dan) is not something I will “get over” or “move on” from, but I will continue to move FORWARD with my life. Grief will continue to walk alongside me, the waves may get smaller, less frequent, it may not hurt as much, but it will always be there and of course it will pop up more so on anniversaries and holidays etc. Finding love again one day doesn’t mean i’ve somehow “gotten over” my grief. Feeling happy sometimes doesn’t mean i’ve “moved on” and “forgotten” about Dan. The trauma, grief and memories are with me – all the time. As a society we need to stop labelling everything. Painting it black and white. Saying when things should be done, what they should look like, labels labels labels. Its boring. I refuse to take part in it.